My mood is affected by different kinds of stimuli. Music, atmosphere, lighting, and weather are a few examples that regularly make an impact on how I’m feeling and my energy levels. The one thing that affects me more than anything is people. Perhaps it’s my extroverted tendencies but the people I interact with have a large impact on how I feel. The more I interact with them the more impact they have.
Some people have perfected the art of sucking the energy out of others. Austin Kleon calls them vampires. They are the kind of people that can derail us no matter what we bring to the table.
What I’m more interested in is the more common and subtle exchange of energy. These are the daily interactions we have throughout the day that take a little or give a little and produce a negative or positive result at the end of the day.
I believe that it’s in these smaller interactions we have the greatest control. In this position we have more of a choice to take or pass energy. Depending on the kind of person you are (introverted or extraverted) we can either be depleted or energized by this interaction.
Making the choice prior to the exchange will more likely provide the result we are looking for rather than leaving it up to chance; hoping the other person will give us the boost of energy we’re looking for.
As an extravert I tend to be energized by passing energy. Deciding to pass energy at the beginning of the day sets me up for having more energy. This often works because most people reflect the energy they are given. In a sense I’m giving myself energy.
The challenge comes when the other person is a black hole and my energy has no effect on them. In this case I have to fortify myself, and conserve my energy, otherwise I’ll get sucked into their vortex. If this is consistent it calls for the Vampire Test.