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August 2022

For this month I want to push into that next level of the transition cycle: the neutral zone. To get there I want to discuss death. More specifically our own deaths.

But not in a carpe diem sort of way. I want to push the conversation past the shortness. Instead, I want to sit in the discomfort of the unknown.

When I think about the death of my parents, or my wife, or my kids it’s accompanied by sadness and darkness. I can get a sense of their absence. That void doesn’t exist when I think about my own death. Rather I come to a dead end. A place that’s impossible to define.

It’s at this point my ego interrupts with a comforting and controlling explanation. Whether that’s the belief in a life after death or the atheistic end to my existence when I die. My ego needs a solid answer. 

The reality is that I don’t know what happens. It is in the space of not knowing I want us to spend some time over the next couple of weeks. 

Embrace this murky space of possibility. Anything can happen or nothing can happen.


  • What does this space feel like for you?
  • How does your body react?
  • Where does your head go?

Like in meditation pull your thoughts back to the unknown. Recognize where your thoughts go. 

  • Do you lean on tradition? Education? Faith? Science?

Push yourself to sit in discomfort. 
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