Even from an early age I have thought that I was built to be a dad. It’s one of the things that I love about my life right now. I also fantasize about being an empty nester. But my relationship with my kids means a lot.
All of that being said, it’s a strange relationship. Maybe that’s just because relationships as a whole are strange.
I volunteered at my kids school recently and it was great experience. It’s great to be in the classroom for multiple reasons.
During this particular trip to the school what made the biggest impact on me was not my own kids, but the other kids in their classes.
I went to PE with my son and got the opportunity to help the teacher run the class (I’m very athletic). With this opportunity I got to work closely with half the class. There were a few students that just wanted my attention, and visibly absorbed it when I gave it to them. I’d love to say that it was my magnetic personality, but it wasn’t. I have no idea what it what it was, I just hope that I was able to provide whatever it was she was looking for.
What it did to was make me think about what I am providing my kids. Whether or not I was aware of their needs and doing my best to provide those needs for them. Again the answer is I have no idea, but I sure hope so.
In the book Social Animal the character Harold describes a time where he is playing with his friends at young age (I’m remembering the 5-8 range), and his dad walks in to check things out. In that moment his dad gets caught up in the game that is being played and tries to join in. While trying to figure out how to play the dad gets lost and finally gives up. The dad can’t keep up with the energy or the ever-changing rules.
I am sure in that moment Harold’s dad felt completely disconnected from him and probably felt like his relationship was slipping. It probably wasn’t slipping it was probably just changing.
That brings to the point of these thoughts and events: what’s my role as a father? Here’s what I’ve come up with:
Oh yeah….and money, food and the shelter.
What roles have you taken on a parent that has made an impact?